add default trustedDependencies and run lifecycle scripts during installation (#7132)

* [install] allow parallel execution of `postinstall` scripts

- fixes spurious exit code 42 from `spawn()`

* postinstall to a pipe

* feat(install): include top 500 packages as defaults for postinstall

* windows newline handling*

*i did not test it

* stuff

* cool

* a

* fix merge

* set `has_trusted_dependencies`

* fix a bunch of tests

* fix merge

* remove `PackageManager`

* remove commented code

* change to function

* Update lockfile.zig

* run scripts if added to `trustedDependencies` after install

* packages without `resolved` properties

* node-gyp scripts

* node-gyp script in the root

* another test

* git deps run prepare scripts

* fix merge

* run lifecycle scripts during installation

* Update lockfile.zig

* always increment

* 🏗️

* update tests

* tickWIthoutIdle

* const uws

* loop forwards through trees

* single buffer bitset list

* tag.isGit

* windows path separators

* `bun.sys.read` and enable/disable buffering

* fix test and waiter thread

* waiter thread and tests

* Update bun-install-registry.test.ts

* workspace exclude `preprepare` and `postprepare`

* Create esbuild.test.ts

* make sure length is the same

* remove deferred binlinks, add estrella test

* test with another version

* address some comments

* remove .verdaccio-db.json

* ooops

* fix build

* use `pid` to wait

* dont register pid_poll when using waiter thread

* stress test

* free

* fix failing tests

* fix linux crash, snapshot stress test

* oops

* concurrent scripts

* activate as soon as possible

* test

* delete stress test packages

* remove unused packages

* comment stress test and maybe fix segfault

* delete snapshot

* fix assertion

* use cpu_count * 2 for default concurrent scripts

* gear emoji

* add --concurrent-scripts to docs

* more docs

---------

Co-authored-by: alexlamsl <alexlamsl@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: dave caruso <me@paperdave.net>
Co-authored-by: Dylan Conway <33744874+MilesWright7@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Jarred Sumner <jarred@jarredsumner.com>

docs/cli/install.md

@@ -60,6 +60,12 @@ To tell Bun to allow lifecycle scripts for a particular package, add the package
 
 Then re-install the package. Bun will read this field and run lifecycle scripts for `my-trusted-package`.
 
+Lifecycle scripts will run in parallel during installation. To adjust the maximum number of concurrent scripts, use the `--concurrent-scripts` flag. The default is two times the reported cpu count or GOMAXPROCS.
+
+```bash
+$ bun install --concurrent-scripts 5
+```
+
 ## Workspaces
 
 Bun supports `"workspaces"` in package.json. For complete documentation refer to [Package manager > Workspaces](/docs/install/workspaces).
@@ -172,6 +178,9 @@ frozenLockfile = false
 
 # equivalent to `--dry-run` flag
 dryRun = false
+
+# equivalent to `--concurrent-scripts` flag
+concurrentScripts = 16 # (cpu count or GOMAXPROCS) x2
 ```
 
 ## CI/CD