### What does this PR do?
We should not call .deinit() after .toJS otherwise hasPendingActivity
will access invalid memory
### How did you verify your code works?
Test run it with debug build on macos or asan on and will catch it
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### What does this PR do?
Fix: https://github.com/oven-sh/bun/issues/21351
Relevant changes:
Fix advance to properly cleanup success and failed queries that could be
still be in the queue
Always ref before executing
Use stronger atomics for ref/deref and hasPendingActivity
Fallback when thisValue is freed/null/zero and check if vm is being
shutdown
The bug in --hot in `resolveRopeIfNeeded` Issue is not meant to be fixed
in this PR this is a fix for the postgres regression
Added assertions so this bug is easier to catch on CI
### How did you verify your code works?
Test added
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