### What does this PR do?
BeforeOpen code is not necessary since we have `setOnSocketUpgraded`
callback now,and we should NOT convert websocket to a response, make
sure that no closed socket is passed to `JSNodeHTTPServerSocket`, change
isIdle to be inside AsyncSocketData to be more reliable (works for
websocket and normal sockets)
### How did you verify your code works?
CI
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### What does this PR do?
This does two things:
1. Fix an ASAN use-after-poison on macOS involving `ws` module when
running websocket.test.js. This was caused by the `open` callback firing
before the `.upgrade` function call returns. We need to update the
`socket` value on the ServerWebSocket to ensure the `NodeHTTPResponse`
object is kept alive for as long as it should be, but the `us_socket_t`
address can, in theory, change due to `realloc` being used when adopting
the socket.
2. Fixes an "undefined is not a function" error when the websocket
upgrade fails. This occurred because the `_httpMessage` property is not
set when a socket is upgraded
### How did you verify your code works?
There is a test and the asan error no longer triggers
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